Love Don't Be Shy Extreme
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- Authentic original perfume
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- Travel-ready 3ml, 10ml, 30ml
- Long-lasting scent
Love Don't Be Shy Extreme is a sweet, powdery floral from By Kilian, built around orange blossom and rose. Neroli and bergamot open it bright and citrus-sharp, before orange blossom and Bulgarian rose take over the middle with a musky, white-floral warmth. The base turns almost edible: marshmallow, vanilla, musk and a trace of pomegranate, closer to a warm dessert than a bouquet. Launched in 2021, it's mostly worn by women, and suits anyone who leans towards sweet, cosy florals rather than sharp or green ones. Voters keep it for autumn and winter, mostly at night, though it holds up at work too. The sillage vote lands clearly on moderate, and longevity leans long-lasting. A 3ml decant is enough to wear it through a run of dark evenings before you decide on more.
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The community verdict
Love Don't Be Shy Extreme blends neroli and orange blossom with marshmallow, vanilla and a rose that becomes clearer as it softens. The largest group find it long-lasting, while most report moderate projection. It fits autumn nights best, though winter evenings work too; its powdery sweetness may not be for everyone.
Summarised with AI from perfume-community reviews
- Heartafter a few minutes
- Bulgarian Rose
- Orange Blossom
- Brand
- By Kilian
- Scent profile
- For women
- Launched
- 2021
- Decant sizes
- 3ml, 10ml, 30ml
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By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme, hour by hour
How it opens, settles and lingers on skin.
Marshmallow and rose melting into vanilla as frost settles outside.
What wearers say
Votes from fragrance communities, most-voted answers first.
Longevity396 votes
Most voted: 47%Long lasting
33%Moderate
Sillage382 votes
Most voted: 51%Moderate
31%Strong
Season396 votes
Most voted: 44%Autumn
39%Winter
Time of day396 votes
Most voted: 54%Night out
30%Evening
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Longevity396 votes
- Very weak2%7 votes
- Weak4%15 votes
- Moderate33%131 votes
- Long lasting (Most voted)47%188 votes
- Eternal14%55 votes
Sillage382 votes
- Intimate8%30 votes
- Moderate (Most voted)51%196 votes
- Strong31%118 votes
- Enormous10%38 votes
Season396 votes
- Spring13%50 votes
- Summer4%16 votes
- Autumn (Most voted)44%175 votes
- Winter39%155 votes
Time of day396 votes
- Daytime13%52 votes
- Office2%9 votes
- Evening30%120 votes
- Night out (Most voted)54%215 votes
Which size is right for you?
Every size is decanted from the same original bottle.
At 3 sprays a day.
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Why scent lovers try it with us before they buy the bottle.
Hand-decanted from the original bottle
Decanted by hand from authentic bottles, never diluted.
Wear it for days before you commit
Live with it at work, at night and at the weekend before you buy a full bottle.
Just like the full bottle
A fine-mist atomiser sprays like the original, so it opens, projects and lasts on your skin the way the full bottle does.
10ML vs a blind buy
What a decant gives you that a bottle bought unsmelled can’t.
Why 10ML?
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Authentic original perfume
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Smell it on your skin before you buy
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Try several scents for one bottle’s price
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Travel-ready atomiser
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No full bottle wasted if it’s not for you
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More from By Kilian
By Kilian started in France in 2007 with a clear taste for boozy, sweet, after-dark perfume. Rum, caramel and vanilla run through much of the range, warmed by cinnamon and cardamom and set on patchouli, cedar or sandalwood. Angels' Share is the natural first try, warm spice and sweet woods with a glow like an old liqueur. Love Don't Be Shy is softer, sugary white flowers over vanilla. Back to Black brings honey and tobacco, and Black Phantom leans into caramel and spice. For a lighter mood, Moonlight in Heaven pairs citrus with tropical fruit.
Frequently asked questions
What does By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme smell like?
By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme opens with Bergamot and Neroli. The heart brings Bulgarian Rose and Orange Blossom. It dries down to Marshmallow, Musk, Pomegranate and Vanilla.
Is By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme long lasting?
Shoppers on fragrance communities most often rate its longevity as long lasting (47% of votes), and 61% rate it long lasting or eternal. They most often rate its sillage as moderate (51% of votes). How long it lasts on you also depends on your skin and how much you apply.
Is By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme good for summer?
Shoppers on fragrance communities rate it mainly for autumn and winter; summer takes only 4% of season votes.
Is By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme good for winter?
Shoppers on fragrance communities rate it well for winter: winter takes 39% of season votes, close behind its most-voted season.
Is By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme for day or night?
Shoppers on fragrance communities mostly wear it after dark: 85% of time-of-day votes are for evenings and nights out, 15% for daytime or the office.
Can I wear By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme to the office?
Shoppers on fragrance communities rarely pick it for the office: only 2% of time-of-day votes go to the office.
Who makes By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme?
Love Don't Be Shy Extreme is made by By Kilian. It was launched in 2021.
How many wears is a 10ml decant of By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme?
A 10ml decant of By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme holds about 200 sprays, roughly 67 days of wear at 3 sprays a day. The 3ml decant holds about 60 sprays, around 20 days. The 30ml decant holds about 600 sprays, around 200 days.
Which other By Kilian perfumes can I try?
Besides By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme, 10ML has Angels' Share, Love Don't Be Shy and Black Phantom from By Kilian, each decanted from the original bottle.
Is this By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme decant the original perfume?
Yes. Every By Kilian Love Don't Be Shy Extreme decant is filled by hand from an original By Kilian bottle, with nothing added or diluted, so it opens, dries down and lasts on your skin the way the bottle does. We sell only authentic originals.
What is a decant?
A small amount of a perfume, taken from its original bottle and put into a travel atomiser. You get the real fragrance in a size that lets you live with it for days before you decide on the full bottle.
How does the money-back guarantee work?
If a scent isn’t right for you, get in touch within 30 days of it arriving and we’ll arrange a refund. Terms apply. See our refund policy.